Common Questions for the Tea Ceremony
Although nowadays many people are opting for a more traditional, westernized wedding, there are still those that wish to incorporate eastern influences and traditions. The Chinese Tea Ceremony has now become one of the most prominent eastern traditions that is seen in modern American-Chinese weddings. However, some brides and grooms do not understand the full meaning behind the ceremony, but nevertheless wish to incorporate this important tradition into their special days.
Our team here at Allegro events has planned and executed multiple tea ceremonies for Chinese weddings and understands the various cultural intricacies that accompany this ancient practice. In addition, our team is multilingual and is fluent in Cantonese, Mandarin, and English. We will provide you with all the necessary information and materials, answer all your tea ceremony questions, and assist you in developing the best tea ceremony plan for your wedding day. Some common questions about the tea ceremony we can help answer are:
- Does the bride and groom serve tea to the parents first?
- It is customary to generally serve to the parents first. But some families prefer to serve to the elders such as the grandparents first. Communication is key here, so be sure to talk to your own family to figure out the right pecking order.
- Do the bride and groom kneel or stand?
- Every family is different and this may very well depend on your sub-culture or the personal preference of those who’s receiving the tea. Talk to your parents and consult the elders within the family. Traditionally speaking, you’re supposed to kneel when you’re serving tea for the elders within the family or those who you’d respect.
- How long does it take for the tea ceremony?
- This strongly depends on the number of guests you’re presenting tea to. Also you have to consider whether the guests are following strict traditions of welcoming the bride from her family’s home to the groom’s house, and serving a second round of tea there. Some families also like to spend the time to take pictures with family and guest shortly after as well. Under normal circumstances this would fall within a 2-3 hour window.
- What do you need to prepare for the tea ceremony?
- Tea set, cushions are essential if you prepare to kneel, along with double happiness and other Chinese traditional decorations. Do check with your elders at home as well as your parents to see how closely do they follow traditions – some families put red dates, lotus seeds, or even boba to their tea! Red envelopes and gold jewelry are the common gifts from the guests whom you present tea to, and you may wish to dedicate someone within the family or a friend to collect and keep the gifts during the ceremony.
- What is the tradition and history of tea ceremony and why are we even doing it?
- Traditional Chinese is a very respectful culture whom respecting the elders is extremely important. The act of serving tea represents respect and appreciation, and in return, the elders usually present the newly weds with gifts, like gold, jewelry, and red envelopes. It is a way for the elders to help the newly weds to help them establish a new family. Keeping the tradition to show and appreciation for the elders.
If you are considering implementing a tea ceremony in your wedding, email us at firstname.lastname@example.org today to schedule a consultation and get more information on how to plan the perfect tea ceremony!